I'd love to hear what you think about it after you watch it. Her three take aways, using your 20s to build identity capital, not being afraid to reach out to your weak ties, and realizing you have the ability to pick your future family, really resonated with me.
I feel like I do an excellent job building identity capital by picking up new skills at work and immersing myself in interesting activities outside of the office. However, the second two points are areas I need to grow in. I often feel self conscious about reaching out to former colleagues, former classmates, or acquaintances who are outside of my core group when applying for a new job, looking to move to a new city, or inquiring about an event their organization is hosting. If the role was reversed, I would be happy to help them out and I need to remember they likely feel the same. Perhaps the fact that hit me the hardest was the idea of picking your own family. I've never thought of dating and marriage in that light before but it's true...you are picking the person who will become your family and your support for the rest of your life. I have a tendency to date horrible, self-absorbed, and semi-present men. These are not the men I would want to be my family someday so I need to think more proactively about who I date.
After watching her talk, I'm also very interested in reading her book. Has anyone read The Defining Decade? What did you think?